As kids continue to grow, they start to compete for everything, from small things such as toys to larger matter like attention. It is normal to witness your children fight or argue yet it can be very frustrating and stressful.
By Rakitha Srinivasan
Here are some tips to encourage healthy relationships and bring peace to the household.
Don’t get involved
Allow your kids to solve their battles on their own. Kids tend to expect your help and solve their problems as a third person. You may need to step in to resolve younger children disputes however; you can still avoid taking sides.
Listen to your children
Set aside siblings and allow him or her the chance to vent their feelings about each other. Respond calmly to their feelings. If you have siblings, share stories of your own childhood conflicts.
Encourage good behaviour
When you see your children get along and work well as a team, be sure to acknowledge and compliment them. A little praise can make their day.
Show that you care
Split your time equally with each of your children. Do special activities according to each of your children that reflect their interests. Remind your kids that you’re there for them and they are able to talk about anything.
The Root Causes of Conflict
- Lack of attention: Kids will start to act out and behave differently than usual to get the attention they want if they feel like they’re being ignored.
- Limited resources: Most households have limited resources. This means siblings might have to share some of their possessions, which can be hard on young children.
- Different personalities. Difference in personalities between siblings can lead to clashes. Age and gender differences also can lead to sibling fighting.
- Fairness issues. An act of unfair treatment can lead to sibling jealousy and resentment.