It’s important for your kids to trust you in order to feel safe, happy and secure. Practise these helpful tips with your kids and take note of the results.
Sometimes children misbehave or meltdown. When your child does something wrong try to explain to them why it’s wrong. Punishment and reward system don’t always work. Try giving them time outs so they can calm down and think about the impact of their actions, but don’t isolate them.
Know your child
Explore your child’s interests. Engage in their activities together. Help your child to feel like they can talk to you about anything. Focus on being secure and calming with your child. Remember to use eye contact. This will help them see you as an equal rather then a boss that they have to report to.
Encourage your child explore their wild imagination via art and play. When shopping, have them chose their own clothes rather then enforce a dress code, (unless it’s for formal events). Take note of their body language and tone of voice because sometimes they may feel a certain way but don’t know how to express it. Demonstrate healthy ways to express their emotions.
Don’t be a hypocrite
Try to be a reference for your children. For example, “No swearing” means you don’t swear around your child either. If your child catches you breaking the rules, simply say “yes you are right” and apologize. Try to avoid even white lies to reduce confusion and help them learn to be honest. Keep promises and follow though. Be reliable.
Pay attention to what your child is really saying and try to anticipate their needs based on verbal and non-verbal cues.