Play is a tool for learning, for developing motor and social skills as well as creativity
Independent or self-directed play can encourage a child to explore and use their imagination. It’s a normal, healthy part of the growing up process and so much more than just “alone time”.
Current child development theories suggest that solo play brings imagination and creativity to the forefront. Play without adult intervention sows seeds of independence, boosts self-confidence, fosters inventiveness and resourcefulness as well as innovation.
Adds variety
Unlike other forms of supervised group play such as board games, sports games and other organized activities, independent play doesn’t oblige children to be the same as everyone else, play within set parameters and follow a set of rules.
When children are encouraged to play, they’re free, without judgement and restraints. They can make up interesting characters, invent magical situations and even foster their own stories, guidelines and outcomes without adult intervention.
Social independence
A lot of activities involve dependence on adults to lead the game, supervise, or participate in some way. With independent activities there is an opportunity for taking a break, deciding for oneself and playing peacefully. It can calm and sooth without interruption. Keep in mind also that it’s not necessarily our job to be the “entertainment’ or play director. It’s much more rewarding when they come up with their own ideas.
Problem solving
Without adults quickly intervening to assist, children have the opportunity to find ways to try different ideas and scenarios with familiar toys. During this time they may become stuck or frustrated with something that isn’t going the way they’d expected. On their own without someone to step in they can try to solve things for themselves and come up with their own creative solutions.
Determination
Persistence is an important life skill and that can be learned. As the saying goes, “If at first you don’t succeed try, try try, again!” Stepping back from helicoptering and letting children figure a few things out for themselves without leaping in is key.
Keeping a low profile
Stay close by but don’t interfere unless safety is not compromised or you are asked to reach something or hand the child a toy or game. Don’t ignore the request but starting a conversation isn’t wise. Instead help if necessary and then watch patiently and encourage them back to autonomous play.
Fostering responsibility
Encourage your child to sort, or put things away during their private time. You can leave a task for them to complete which, when done, will lead to a sense of accomplishment. You can also ask them to organize something in their space or for themselves. Put away clothes, organize a book shelf, sort small toys, pack up a game etc.
Anjolina Rankin-West is an editorial assistant with an interest in family caregiving.
Photo: Yuri Shirota, Unsplash.
