Mark Twain famously said “kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see”.
Over the years we’ve heard many quotes and have been told plenty of stories and parables about kindness. But in today’s troubled world, what does it really mean to be kind and how can we work at being more so on a day-to-day basis.
Looking for good is a great place to start. The brave thing to do is reject the negative narrative and find ways to seek out the positive. Lead with empathy and foster an attitude that speaks to resilience. Doing unto others as you would have them do unto you and finding ways to spread good news is more than just a mantra. It’s a way of life.
Cynics may feel that being kind on a one-to-one basis doesn’t really make a difference. However, the truth is, kind behaviour has been shown not only to improve one’s well-being but that of those around you. Being kind and expecting nothing in return boosts self-esteem, reduces stress, promotes social connection and improves mood.
Cultivating a sense of kindness requires more than just polite behaviour. It’s about having compassion and empathy for other people and what they’re going through – putting yourself in other people’s shoes and seeking to understand, rather than pass judgement.
Experts suggest that developing this foundation for yourself and your children can make it easier to see the positive moments in your own life and shift your mindset. Also, practicing gratitude can help to make you and your family members more resilient, less anxious and better equipped to handle everyday challenges. Being grateful has also been show to helps to reduce negative emotions, improve sleep and mood, and can sometimes even increase immunity. Research shows that fostering a positive mindset will also strengthen your desire to perform reciprocate acts of kindness, leading to a cycle of positivity and stronger relationships.
So how do you infuse more kindness into your world? Start simple • Smile at passersby on the street, try holding the door for someone and don’t be afraid to step in and ask if someone needs help when you’re out and about • When your friends are down, make time to listen to them • Don’t live with regrets or punish others for their mistakes or missteps. Rather try to see them for just what they are—learning opportunities • Leave a thoughtful note for your partner or friend, or pay it forward if you can afford to at the local coffee shop.
If you’re looking to spread kindness in your community • Look for a need and volunteer your time • Contribute to a meal train or offer to help your neighbour with some chores • Shoot a text to someone you know is having a tough time or drop by to say hello.
Kindness isn’t hard, it just requires a smile, heart-felt mindset and a focus on being friendly, generous and considerate.
Caroline Tapp-McDougall
Publisher/Editor
caroline@bcsgroup.com
Photo: Mei-Ling Mirow, Unsplash
